The dictionary describes that although there are many forms of friendship, some of which may vary from place to place, certain characteristics are present in many types of friendship. Such characteristics include affection, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, mutual understanding and compassion, enjoyment of each other’s company, trust, and the ability to be oneself, express one’s feelings, and make mistakes without fear of judgment from the friend.
Why is it when you are married to a closeted gay husband the best friend roll is so overly emphasized. I have to say I have also seen this in straight marriages also when one partner no longer loves the other, but stays for children, or financial reasons. They tell you that you are their best friend, you know them better than anyone else in the world. Pretending they cannot live without you. They give you kudos in public forums such as Facebook. Stating things like my beautiful wife, my best friend, I could not live without her. These are the crumbs they throw at you, to make up for a real lack of intimacy. They are biding their time, until the real deal comes along. Once they find what they are truly looking for, the man of their dreams, or the new beard. You will see how quickly you are discarded, but wait I thought we were best friends. Can’t we still be friends? I don’t think there will be room in his life for you, and his new boyfriend, or his new beard. What about all the years we spent together, all the years you said I was your best friend, your only friend, I thought I knew you like no other. You will find the years meant nothing. It will not matter that you raised a family together, or started a business together, that you spent decades building a life with this person. Are you a best friend, or a beard for a closeted gay husband?
This is not what I signed up for when I got married. I wanted love, intimacy, companionship. I wanted faithfulness, and someone to grow old with, and yes friendship too, but I wanted more than friendship. If you are in a relationship were the friendship is really played to the hilt. I believe this is something you need to look at. Why would you settle for this in any marriage. Don’t you deserve a marriage that is more than friendship? At the end of my marriage I found out the friendship he claimed over and over was just one more lie, in a long litany of lies and deceit.
Points to Ponder:
Would A Best Friend Lie To Your Face For Years?
Would A Best Friend Continually Cheat?
Would A Best Friend Risk Your Health By Exposing You To Diseases?
Would A Best Friend Use You As A Cover?
Would A Best Friend Always Put His Needs Above Yours?
Would A Best Friend Let You Believe Something Is Wrong With You?
Would A Best Friend Have Family And Friends Believe You Are Mentally a Imbalanced?
Would A Best Friend Abuse You?
Would A Best Friend Watch You Suffer Trying To Fix The Problems In The Marriage, When He Knows What The Problem Is?
Don’t mistake friendship for real love and intimacy. There are some gay/straight marriages that do remain friends after a divorce. Most of those that remain friends have children.
Fake Husband= Fake Friendship-When a person pretends to be your friend, but has ulterior motives. They play up the friendship role, because it is all they can pretend to offer you. They are offering crumbs to keep you around, so their secret will stay safe. When a husband does not want physical intimacy with you, but claims you are his best friend for me this is another sign of a closeted gay husband.